Have BIG ideas
and then LIVE up to them!
It's true - if you
only think small thoughts, then you are likely to only achieve small
things, but if you dream on a BIGGER scale, then you are much more
likely to achieve those big dreams.
It is all about
setting the direction of your energy - the more positive you are, the
bigger the energy flow in the direction you want to go. It really does
come down to "what you believe" is "what you get".
So believing (and I mean really believing - not some half-hearted wish)
that you are going to be an astronaut/doctor/artist/slim is exactly
the energy that is needed to make it happen. How many times have you
heard of a successful person saying "for as long as I can remember
- I always wanted to be ..."? Those people started out in life
with a conviction of who they were going to be - what a powerful way
to get what they want out of life!
Perhaps those that
didn't have such a strong intent, and that have been ambling along from
one thing to another might be feeling a bit concerned by now, that they
might never achieve anything. Are you thinking that you will never make
it, or have what you want out of life?
Well, it is never
too late to start - as soon as you believe it - you can have it!
And that's the trick - BELIEVING it.
However, with all
those past experiences to go on, of "not having" or "not
achieving much", it's going to take a very big leap of faith to
start and truly believe now. For starters, you are going to have to
ditch negative attitudes about what you think you are capable of, including
what others have told you, and re-learn some new positive thoughts.
many times have you also heard about people who only got their act together
AFTER someone had told them that they were a loser, or wouldn't amount
to much? For them, proving someone else wrong was their biggest motivation
to get going or maybe it was just the wake up call they needed to show
themselves what they really could do, if they tried.
Now, once you've
got started with this new belief - whether it's I CAN BE SLIM, or I
WILL BE A DOCTOR, or I WILL CREATE MY WILDERNESS RETREAT - you have
to remain committed to your belief, in order to get to where you are
going. Generally, people can often get themselves to the starting point
on their own, but slip back into doubt and uncertainty after the initial
push. That's where motivational help comes in - such as in the form
of the slimming clubs who provide motivation by measurement, sharing
with others in the same situation or additional goals to aim at. These
days, motivational coaches are also becoming more popular - they provide
support when your own motivation (ie belief and commitment) starts to
If you've been down
this road a few times already, you may be wondering where you've gone
wrong. Well, let's stop and think about what you are trying to do. If
all of your life, you've been an "also ran", gone with the
flow and followed other people's lead, it takes a big shift internally
to suddenly change your ethos to leader, achiever, go-getter!
Now is the time
to enact your belief in a manageable way.
That means that
you need to put your belief into action in a way that you personally
For example - if
you have a big idea that is "you are going to dig a whole paddock".
You can pick up a spade and just start digging. However, at some point,
your muscles will get tired, your stomach will get empty and your body
will need a rest. Your big idea is now starting to look unattainable
today, and motivation might be wilting, especially if your neighbour
has got half of their paddock dug already! This is the point that many
give up with reasons such as "obviously I haven't got what it takes",
"I can't keep you with ...", "I gave it my best shot"!
Is this your pattern in life? You get so far and then get disheartened
and stop or change to do something you think you CAN achieve? Perhaps
you've gradually reduced your estimation of what you think is achievable?
First of all, comparing
yourself with others can be very disheartening - we are not all the
same, we have different physical and mental abilities and therefore
you usually do yourself a disservice with this comparison. If your goal
was to dig the paddock, then it doesn't matter if your neighbour can
do it more quickly. You don't need to add the extra challenge of digging
it faster than anyone else (unless this is your true goal of course,
but then you're playing a different game!).
Another issue is
impatience - "I want X and I want it now!" Staying power is
what is needed in order to achieve your goal - life isn't all instant
gratification, sometimes it takes longer - ask an Olympic athlete
how long they train every day.
However, you can
bring your goal a lot closer by working out a realistic way that you
can achieve it, with YOUR body and YOUR circumstances. Now, don't let
FEAR get an opportunity to creep back in here - it's not a quick get
out clause for your past negative belief system, just a realistic facing
of facts. You can only dig for so long before needing a break, you will
work better with a good spade, the weather may make a difference to
how effectively you work. These are factors to consider and to work
with or around.
So in our example,
of digging a paddock, giving yourself some interim goals or marker points
- such as "I'll dig up to that point and take a break" or
"I'll dig one row every day" is a balanced way of progressing
towards your goal. You also know that as long as you keep at it, then
one day you will reach the other end.
This approach also
gives you an opportunity to learn as you go. Each time you reach a way
marker, you have just achieved what you set out to do - pat yourself
on the back, admire your handiwork so far, see how quickly the dug portion
is growing. Very soon you will have done more than you have left to
do. You will probably also notice how your muscles are developing, as
well as your confidence growing and that now you are setting your way
markers further apart.
Consider your growth
in self belief as a metaphorical equivalent of physical muscle development
- the more you practice ACHIEVING, the more you achieve. The effect
is cumulative. Remember, each time, you need to push just that bit further
than you did the last time.
You need to
have an aim that is slightly out of your reach in order to stretch yourself
to reach it.
There is one more
aspect to achieving your goal, that takes your BELIEF to another level
altogether and that can ultimately produce much faster results. For
this you need to take your BELIEF to the level of KNOWING. This helps
to bring all the things that you are going to need to help you attain
your goal, ready in line at the time you need them.
something will be there when you put your hand out to reach it is a
powerful energy to work with.
To help understand
the subtleties between believing and knowing, compare the difference
between knowing it was sunny yesterday and believing it will be sunny
tomorrow. If you live in a warm, dry, arid climate, then the expectation
of a continuance of sun is probably much stronger than if you live somewhere
with high rainfall. Pre-disposition based on past events has already
set your expectation and your level of BELIEF. Just as in your own personal
life, how you have been in the past, colours your expectations about
what will occur in the future.
that in both cases, there is the same image in your brain of a sunny
day, with the only difference being one of time. What evidence do you
really have that it actually was sunny yesterday - did you experience
it in order for it to be in your memory? Did someone tell you it was
sunny? The newspaper corroborates your view perhaps? Although, it could
be that you just dreamed it was sunny, or what you experienced, no one
else did - say the clouds skirted around your house and the sun shone
on you all day, but your neighbours got rain. We tend to believe things
more strongly when they are in the past than the future, citing various
other evidence to corroborate what we believe.
If you can transfer
that same sense of knowing that you have about the past, on to what
you believe for the future, then you will almost certainly bring about
the desired outcome. And, of course the more people who also believe
the same thing, the more that belief is reinforced - just as someone
else in the same place experiencing a sunny day reinforces your own
view that it was sunny yesterday.
I know how effective
this can be from my own experience of emigrating to another country
- it took me just 2 months from making the committed decision. That
was the first step - commitment to my decision - I KNEW that I was going.
I KNEW that whatever I needed would be available to me to make it happen.
I arranged my visa, set a date, booked my ticket, worked out a plan
of action and then set about selling my house, car, furniture, everything
barring personal items. Plenty of people told me I couldn't do it -
and yes it was hard work - but I KNEW differently and KNEW that I could
achieve it. And I did.
So I come back to
the opening statement:
ideas and then LIVE up to them!"
Hargreaves 31st October 2005)
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